Ask anyone you know what it is they want right now in their life, and you’re sure to get a lengthy wish list.
There will be material things that would make their lives more comfortable or convenient like a new car, a bigger house, or just more money in general.
They might also want a change in circumstances such as a new job, better health or happier relationships.
We all have a wish list.
We always will.
And even when we do get what we want, we almost immediately start desiring something new. This is what keeps us alive, working towards better things and gives us the motivation to move forward.
You see, a main “Criterion of Consciousness” for the human experience, is never having all you want. For as one dream comes true, another one swiftly takes its place.
Not having all you want is one of life’s constants.
And learning to be happy while not yet having all you want is the first “Criterion of Joy”. Nail it, and for the rest of your life people will be asking what it is about you.
And that’s why desire is a beautiful thing.
It’s good to have the desire for more than what you have. What matters is how that affects you. Does it make you resentful that you don’t have what you want, or does it motivate you to work hard to get those things? Do you let it keep you from being happy, or do you find enjoyment in the things you do have?
Learning to be happy while not yet having all you want doesn’t always come naturally, but with some effort anyone can learn to be happy despite their circumstances (it’s all in your mind anyway).
Here are some ideas for doing just that.
- Count your blessings – Taking some time to think about the good things in your life every day will help you to be grateful and will keep you from feeling deprived.
- Avoid jealousy – Put your thoughts and energy toward positive things and don’t allow your thoughts to get negative. Eventually you can feel real happiness for others achievements, which will help to contribute to your own success as you let go of negative energy.
- Don’t lose that desire – Keep wanting in a positive way. Set goals and work toward reaching them. Take pleasure in every step taken toward your goals. Enjoy the process rather than waiting for “happiness” to arrive when you finally get what you want.
Joy is defined as ecstatic happiness. That doesn’t come from the new car, big house or getting rich, but is what is experienced along the way. As the saying goes, “Happiness is a means of travel, not a destination”.
A person who is happy while still wanting more and working to get it has that special something. The energy and enthusiasm that can come from having a strong desire adds a dimension to your personality that can’t come from any other source.
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