There’s a great self development book called The 4 Agreements written by Don Miguel Ruiz.
The 4 Agreements are based on ancient Toltec wisdom from the native people of Southern Mexico. The Toltec were people of knowledge, scientists and artists who created a society to explore and conserve the traditional spiritual wisdom and practices of their ancestors.
And it may seem strange that I’m writing about this on a marketing blog but I believe that in order to work effectively in your business and serve others well you must first be well yourself.
And these four agreements are a great path to reach a state of mind that will allow you to be in peace with yourself and others.
These agreements are very simple and elegant; if you take them to heart and practice them they will change your life for sure.
They provide an inspiring code for life, a personal development model and a template for behavior, communications and relationships.
And the agreements are:
First agreement: Be impeccable with your words.
Your words constitute the power you have to create.
Words are the most powerful tool you have as a human being, the instrument of magic. Depending on how you use them, words can free you or enslave you, even more than you think they can. This includes the words you say to others and your internal dialogue.
Impeccable means without sin. Always give words of encouragement, love and hope and be vigilant of what you say to yourself and others. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
Second agreement: Don’t take anything personally.
Self-importance, or taking things personally, is the ultimate expression of selfishness, because we believe that everything revolves around us.
During the period of our education (domestication as Don Miguel calls it), we learned to take all things personally. We have to realize that nothing other people do is for you, what other people do, they do it for themselves, even when they hurt or insult you.
When someone hurts you he causes the damage to himself, not to you. When someone judges you he doesn’t define you, he defines himself as someone who needs to judge.
We all live in our own world, in our own mind, each of us lives in a completely different world from one another. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Third agreement: Don’t make assumptions.
We tend to make assumptions about everything. The problem is that in doing so, we believe that what we assume is true; we could even swear is real.
We make assumptions about what others do or think and we take it personally, then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our words. This is why when we make assumptions we create problems.
We make an assumption, misinterpret things, we take it personally and we end up creating a big drama for nothing. Don’t assume anything, it’s better to ask and be certain of things. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.
Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Fourth agreement: Always do your best.
This last agreement is the one that makes the other 3 agreements become deeply ingrained habits.
Always do your best. Under any circumstance, always give your maximum effort, no more and no less, give your all.
But always keep in mind that your maximum effort will vary from time to time. All things are alive and in constant change, and so in some occasions your maximum effort will render great quality, and in others not so good.
By always doing your best you’ll avoid self-judgment and regrets.
I encourage you to make a conscious effort and practice these 4 agreements for a week; if you do so you’ll be amazed with the results.
What are your thoughts on these 4 agreements? How would the world be different if we all practiced them?
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